Do you feel stuck in a job you hate? Have you outgrown it and now fantasise about doing something that sets your soul alight (and makes you a ton of money at the same time)? What would we say if we told you that feeling stuck in a job you hate is completely optional and you can change it… today? If that suggestion triggered a ‘yes but’ response, read on. We’ve compiled four game-changing pieces of advice to transform your outlook on your current job situation.
1. You always have a choice
Even when it feels like you are trapped in work you hate, you have a choice. Most often, the belief that ‘I can’t leave my job and I can’t make it better’ is based on anxiety about what you think will happen if you make a change, rather than what you know will happen. It’s said that 85% of the things we worry about never come true. The same is true for fears about being fired if you speak up about a job you hate OR that you will be broke and destitute, unhirable by other companies or judged by others if you leave that job.
Now, if you’re thinking, ‘no I really can’t leave my job because I have a mortgage to pay and children to feed’, you still have a choice. You can wallow, complain and blame everyone OR you can use that energy to take action and start laying the groundwork to help you escape from the job you hate as soon as possible. The choice is yours.
2. All jobs have their downsides… even the most glamorous ones
There’s a narrative that’s prolific in society at present: you can get paid simply for being yourself. And with the likes of Instagram, YouTube and Facebook flooded with adverts and posts by people claiming to be living the high life while making passive income and getting paid for being themselves (usually by doing public speaking, coaching or writing books), it’s easy to really buy into this. The end result is often that you start to resent a job that is a great fit for you simply because you’ve been seduced by the idea that work shouldn’t feel like work.
Don’t get us wrong, getting paid to do what you would do for free is nice work IF you can get it; however that it is often easier said than done. And you will always have to do boring and unpleasant tasks and deal with annoying, demanding people – no matter what you do for a living.
Don’t get so caught up with the dream you’re being sold by others that you start to vilify a job that you enjoy somewhat, are good at and get paid well to do.
3. Your thoughts create your reality
Have you ever noticed how when you’re having a bad day and you dwell on it, it just gets worse? While if you’re having a great day and you feel like the world is rigged in your favour, great things seem to happen? It’s easy to dismiss this as good or bad luck, but we believe that you make your own luck – that’s the premise of the law of attraction.
With that in mind, adjust your attitude and you may be pleasantly surprised by what happens.
We know exactly what it’s like to have a horrendous boss, mean girl colleagues, be paid a pittance while worked like dog, and not given the credit you deserve for the great work you do. However, dwelling on these things places you in the role of a victim… and once you’re there, it’s hard to get out.
Reframe the story by focusing on what’s good about your current job and on how you can change some of the things you are unhappy with. For example, if you’re not getting paid for all the extra work you do, you can voice your concerns to your boss, ask for a pay rise, say no to future unpaid overtime or leave your job: you always have a choice.
4. To do fulfilling work, you need to know what being fulfilled means to you
Something we see a lot of at The Ambition Plan is women who want to find a more fulfilling career but try as they might, they just can’t seem to figure out what they want to do in life. The source of their confusion is always the same: they have no idea what fulfilment really means to them. We liken this to setting off on a journey with no clear destination and then wondering why you keep going round in circles.
If you currently feel stuck in a job you hate because you don’t know what else you can do, we want to challenge you to look at your problem from a different perspective. Stop spending hours trying to think of a new career field you could go into or a million-dollar business idea, instead focus on your end goal. Why do you want that fulfiling job? Why are success and a dream lifestyle so important to you? And most importantly, how will you know when you’ve achieved success and fulfilment?
(Hint: it’s never when others tell you that you are a success)
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